Originally Posted by
albertj
On these cars, jump starting this way sends transient voltage spike thru ECM and usually fries it.
You can get a replacement ECM via Xemodex.
In the owner's manual you will find procedure for jump start. Generally it is to connect another car (call it 'donor car') more or less as you did but then just run the donor car for a while and charge the dead battery enough to start the car, takes 15-20 minutes. Alternatively, use a 'jump box' which basically is a portable small AGM battery in a case with cables attached.